In the cool of the evening, Adun quietly walk down to the spot where she usually meets her lover. It’s under the shade of a big mango tree, behind the village square. He is the only guy that swept her off feet. Funny enough, she is just fifteen and her boyfriend who is two years older than her has just won a s’cholarship to study in the city. She is scared of losing him, because not only is he very handsome, he is also a genius and the pride of their village. He has however promised that nothing could part them both. She hopes he would make true his promise. She was still deep in thoughts when Ade startled her by jumping in her front. Obviously he knew she was deep in thoughts and he had to do that to bring her back to the present.
They hugged, looked into each other’s eyes and burst into laughter. They were best of friends, and they’ve been like that for the past two years. She has been the beauty queen of Iremide village, always gaining the attention of young bachelors in town because of her fair complexion and physique. Not only is she beautiful, she is also a great dancer, she has always won the dancing competition for her village for the past five years and this had made her so popular.
Their relationship is known to both families because they are usually seen together since she started college, though she has a year to finish secondary school, Ade however graduated some months back and won one of the three scholarships for their local government to go and study in the prestigious University of Lagos. It was a great jubilation the previous day when the news broke out that Ade had the highest score in the scholarship examination, that of course made the village of Iremide more popular as there are ten villages under that local government.
“Promise me someone else won’t take my place in your heart as you go to the city”, Adun said looking straight into Ade’s eyes. “Cross my heart darling, you make my world go round…no else will take your place”. There was silence between them as Adun feared that he will soon forget her once he gets to the city. “Make me believe you”, she replied….doubts written all over her face. As if he has prepared for this, he removed a sharp object from his pocket, made a cut on his left thumb to the shock of his girl friend….”Here, promise you will wait for me, because I can’t afford to lose you, my beauty queen”, he made her lick the blood oozing from his thumb as she vowed to remain faithful and wait for his return.. “Babe, I have to cut your thumb too”…. “ooouch”, she sighed as he made a cut on her left thumb. “I make a vow today to love you as long as I live, I will never make love to another woman apart from you…I will come back for you and make you my wife.”
Ade went to the city of Lagos for his studies and he never stopped writing to Adun. He also tries to call her once in a while. In school, he excelled as he usually end up being one of the top three every semester. Adun finished her secondary school and went for computer training in a town not too far from the village. In less than a year, she started working as a secretary in the newly established school in her village. She needed to be close to her ageing parents so she had to work not far from home. The moment she started working, suitors started coming. She turned them down…She has a focus…she has a suitor who she has promised to wait for…there’s certainly no going back. Two years later, Ade finished school and completed his mandatory youth service. Pressures came from all side for Adun to get married, especially when the rich suitors came in, she refused to be distracted. Ade made it a point of duty to check her in the village anytime he has the means and time, they promised to wait for each other.
Things however did not turn out as Ade anticipated after his youth service, there was no job. He was only given a scholarship, he wasn’t promised automatic employment. So, the job hunt continued for more than a year, as Adun was putting pressure on him to come and pay her bride price, his siblings and parents were also waiting on him to help lighten the financial burden back at home. Adun would weep for so long at nights till early hours of the morning, if only she has enough money to take care of them both, she would advise him to marry her straight away, but she could not make ends meet.
It was not long after this that Ade met Wura, she seems like a God-sent, he only assisted her once to recover a lost item…and that did the magic, she became indebted to Ade. She talked to her dad who runs a group of companies and within a couple of months got him a ‘juicy’ job. Adun was the first to hear the good news, Ade had to tell her so as to put her mind at rest and make her start preparing for their wedding. It was like a dream coming true for both of them, until Wura proposed to Ade. It was a rude shock for him as he never expected a relationship in exchange of her influence in getting him a job. Wura is the only child of her parents, Ade has a lot to gain by marrying her, his days of penury and joblessness will be over. He even has a prospect of being the CEO of the group of companies in the nearest future…but what about Adun? He has vowed with his blood to make love to no other woman as long as Adun is alive…
God does not joke with vows. Numbers 30:2 attests to this. God emphatically instructs that you should never make a vow if you know you will not keep to it. Vows are strong and bonds the parties involved until death parts them. Why make a vow to a babe/guy when you are not at the altar exchanging marital vows? Don’t put a seal on your destiny with someone now when you are not sure you are going to end up with same person.
Great relationships are not strings-attached, if you marry him/her because of beauty or material possessions, what is the future of such relationship if beauty fades and materials vanish? Blood covenant is deep, spiritual and powerful, don’t enter into it with someone in the name of assuring him/her of your commitments. It has great consequence when breeched. If someone made a promise to marry you and fails, it is not the end of life, don’t commit suicide, someone better is on the way who will keep to his/her promise!