BItter-Sweet Goodbye

ImageLaide really has to make up her mind, it’s either she let go of Ayo or continue to experience tears and emotional stress all the time. She loves this guy so much, and always pray that he would ask her out he did. Ayo is the ladies’ man, charming, outspoken and he is also a flirt.

The problem he has is his inability make up his mind on the type of woman he wants. He is talented, in fact, the leader of a popular band in town and Laide happens to be a member of same band. They have been singing together for years and as the year goes by, Laide has grown to love, respect and admire the way he leads and control the band, she just fell in love with his person. Ayo later came to notice her after scouting different girls around, he discovered he had been moving around with a treasure without realizing it. They started dating and Laide felt like the best woman on earth for he calls her “my queen” and a queen she really is except that she was engaged to the wrong king. Ayo never hide his interests to other women when he is together with Laide, he would eye and wink to other girls in the presence of his fiancée without shame or remorse. It got to a time that Laide would visit him and meet girls in his room. She could not bear it, she would cry and wail for days only for Ayo to beg her later that those girls are just mere friends with no strings attached.

Laide met with a relationship counselor who advised her to let go of the relationship and leave Ayo because he is a playboy who is not ready for a steady relationship at the moment. Laide did not want to hear that as she so much love her guy. On and off the relationship went, Laide got hurt more and more as she saw evidences of abortion that Ayo did for other girls.

Laide’s thought was filled with what people would say when they hear about her ‘broken’ relationship. She has invested so much in the relationship that letting go didn’t look like a good option. She however forgot that they were not yet married and that it is better to have a ‘broken’ courtship than a ‘broken’ marriage. She did not know that the period of dating or courtship helps one to critically assess the relationship whether it will stand the test of time or not. If all he does now is to make you cry and sad in your courtship, he may never be able to make you smile if you walk down the aisle with him. A guy that cannot keep his eyes off anything in skirt despite in a relationship will have a great challenge with fidelity when he gets married. A girl that cannot stop wishing your best friend is her man despite engaged to you will one day sleep with another man she admires more than you if the opportunity avails itself. If he/she is not satisfied with how beautiful or wonderful you are, there is no pint wasting your time hanging around such person. There is someone who will admire you just the way you are….I hope you are striving to be the best you can be.

Let go of bad relationship or association…don’t hang around where you are just tolerated…go where you are celebrated. There is a man/woman praying that someone like you should come to his/her life. Don’t waste your time loving someone who enjoys breaking your heart. Say goodbye to that ‘killing’ relationship. Walk away from that ‘heart breaking’ affair. Leave that guy who keeps abusing you daily. You may have some things you are gaining presently that wants to make you stay…you may be considering all that you have invested to make you never want to go. You need to put the future in focus when deciding about your relationship; will this person continue to make you happy seven years from now? Don’t believe he/she will change that attitude when you both get married, if he/she cannot change now, the change may never come in marriage, rather whatever the person is now has a way of multiplying in later years.

It may be a bitter farewell now but it will turn out to be a sweet decision tomorrow. Just kiss it goodbye, don’t even mourn or grieve about it, because you are better off without it. A lot of us have over stayed our welcome in some places and thus we have been treated like dirt where we are supposed to be celebrated. Learn how to read signs and handwritings on the wall, don’t beg to stay where you are not needed…arise and go where your potentials are in high demand. There is so much deposits in you, don’t waste away wishing your yesterday was different, you have your today to work on and your tomorrow to plan for. Stop dating someone who is competing with your daily success. Associate with someone who completes and encourages you. Relationship is a team work; it is not a fight for survival of the fittest. Bid farewell to habits that is chaining you down from moving forward. Make a great decision today…it may taste bitter now….it will turn out sweet tomorrow!

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