This is an open letter to all mothers-in-law.
I write to you today as woman to woman. It has come to my notice that you had a choice of spouse in mind for your child to marry; one way or the other your child ended up marrying his/her own choice and not yours. You want your child’s happiness so you seem to comply with the union but on the other hand, you are vigilant, watching and waiting for your son/daughter-in-law’s mistake so you can have a chance to show your initial disapproval of the relationship.
I want you to know that whatever you do to your daughter-in-law may likely be reaped by your daughter from her mother-in-law. It’s called the law of the harvest. Let me introduce you to the best mum-in-law I have ever heard about. She is Naomi, the one Ruth promised not to leave in the ancient book of Ruth as contained in the wisest book ever written (The Holy Bible). Oh yeah, you seem to be familiar with the story. She was a great mentor to her daughter-in-law. In fact she never blamed Ruth for the death of her son, Ruth’s husband, which was untimely. She treated her like a daughter and even introduced her to the God of Israel.
Ruth had nothing left to look out for since her husband’s death and Naomi released her to go but she knew her mother-in-law would not survive her long journey back to Israel without help and company. She volunteered for an opportunity to start life all over again by keeping Naomi’s company. She wouldn’t have done that if Naomi had treated her badly.
The great relationship Naomi had with Ruth ended up blessing both their lives. Naomi got her late husband’s inheritance back courtesy of the husband Ruth later married in Israel. It is inhumane to treat your daughter-in-law badly because you feel she will ‘steal’ your son’s attention from you.
Genesis 38 gives an account of how Tamar was badly treated by her spouse. God killed her spouse when God saw her pains and ordeal. God is moved by the tears of women because He knows they are fragile at heart and should be treated with respect. Jezebel was also slain by God for plotting against God’s servant, Elijah. Her blood was licked by dogs; that’s to tell you how God treats people who are inhumane. Let me ask you, do you want GOD to slay you? God help you if your daughter-in-law can cry out to God like Hagar did in the wilderness….help will surely come for her.
Treat your daughters-in-law as you want your own daughters to be treated in their matrimonial homes. One of the tweets of Praise Fowowe on twitter (@praisefowowe) reads: “African families must learn to allow two adults who have chosen to marry be and not interfere with sentiments that have not helped anyone”
I have vowed to be the best mother-in-law to my future daughters/sons-in-law. I want them to remember me and call me the best mother-in-law that ever lived on earth. What about you?
Please Note: This piece is a special dedication to all daughters-in-law who are being victimized by their mothers-in-law. God sees your pain, He hears your cry, and He will plead your case.
I am your Fellow Sister,
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