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SINGLES ARE NEEDED IN NATION BUILDING By @InspiringTeeKay #WhenSinglesGather July Edition


one night stand

one night stand artSamson was a celebrity, he was a power house but he died in his prime. The nation of Israel lost him when the ovation was loudest for him. Who nailed him? Delilah! Samson just couldn’t stop running after Delilah after the first time he had her. It would have been better for him if he never had a taste of her in the first place.

Joseph knew the risk embedded in a one night stand, he therefore ran for his dear life when Potiphar’s wife offered him her body on a platter of gold. Although it landed him in prison for she blackmailed him for not having sex with her. He however knew it was better to be in a temporary prison than to forever lose one’s destiny. He understands what is written in the book of Proverbs 6:31-32 which says, “Anyone that commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding: he that does it destroys his own soul. A wound and dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.”

Father Abraham however forgot this when he allowed his wife, Sarah manipulate him into sleeping with their help, Hagar. That one night stand with Hagar produced Ishmael. The various religious wars all over the world would have been minimal if Ishmael was never conceived.

A lot of homes have been broken today because of uncontrolled sexual urge. Joseph was not naïve, it was not like he didn’t see how beautiful his master’s wife was but his eyes were more focused on the palace he was created for. I challenge you to take charge of your sexuality. Don’t start a fire you know can get your fingers burnt. David admired Bathsheba; he desired her and allowed his lust for her to overpower him. He did not rest till he had sex with her; his generations paid for it. His son, Amnon ended up raping his step sister, Princess Tamar who never recovered from the shame and suffered low self-esteem for the rest of her life. Amnon was made to pay for his sin as his step brother; Absalom killed him for raping Tamar. It did not end there, Absalom later slept with his dad’s concubines and mistresses right in public view. Do you now see that a sexual misbehaviour by a parent does not end there? It has a direct influence on his/her kids if care is not taken.

Sex doesn’t just merge two people physically, it binds them spiritually. Sex is binding because it involves not only bodies but souls, sex is a covenant and that is why it is the sweetest and deepest communication that a married man can experience with his wife.

Don’t put your destiny for sale. Illicit sex transfers Spiritually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). These are diseases that can’t be seen under the lenses of a microscope neither can it be detected through laboratory’s tests but they exist. They can control a man’s destiny. Don’t succumb to that five minutes of sexual pleasure that will mar your future. Take God’s candid advice, if you’re single, sleep alone till you get married, if you’re married, sleep only with your spouse.

Beneath the Smile

He looks to you like a born leader, he handles life-issues like an expert, and he is every upcoming youth’s mentor but beneath his smile, he is battling with his sexuality. He wishes he could enjoy sex like it is portrayed in the porn films and romance novels. He has an urge that is barely pacified each time he has sex with his wife.

She is a diva. Her voice is like  a nightingale’s, she has everything a young lady would aspire for; fame, wealth and connection but she has this past that keeps haunting her every night and behind closed doors, she can’t stop wetting her pillow with tears. She wishes she could change the consequences that her wayward past life has on her future. She had aborted in the past and this has left her with a ruptured womb. What man would want to marry such a woman, she often asks herself.

They make a cute couple; they are a bundle of inspiration to countless lives as they reach out to souls to bless them on a regular basis, still, after so many years of marriage they are yet to have a child of their own. They give hope to people in the open yet on their bed they wish all hope is not lost for their marriage to birth biological children.

Dear Friends, let us ponder on the words of Paul of Tarsus which says, “We were troubled on every side; yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed…” II Corinthians 4:8-9 I also love the words of wisdom from King Solomon which reads, “If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small”…Proverbs 24:10.

We all have our ‘thorn in the flesh’; it may be light or ugly. We all have scars, the memory of which may still be fresh or long forgotten, but in all, let our hope and determination to pull through be stronger than the urge to throw in the towel. This is not just the usual relationship article you read, this is a motivational pill for someone; it is the soothing balm for your soul. Weeping may endure for a night; surely joy comes in the morning. Dear friend, I write to remind you that there is light at the end of your tunnel and you will burst into a beautiful laugh soon.
Envisage the beautiful future you seek and laugh as if it is here already! Be hopeful, be grateful and be thankful for how far you have come. It will always be better. Seek professional help if need be but don’t give up on your life. Be strong at heart, you are a plus to the world!

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